Okay ... now I got more problems, and since I feel that they affect other folks here, I'm gonna say my piece. And it's probably a whole lot more than .02 worth.

CS Forum is open again ... sort of somewhat. Can't post there, though, unless you know "the back door" so to speak. My DW went there, expressed her pleasure that it was up and running again and explained to others how to post new messages there if they liked. Not only did Chuck delete her post ... he didn't contact her explaining why he deleted her post, didn't offer a reason we can't add new topics, didn't show much courtesy at all to someone who's provided all the help and support she possibly can. You know ... I know how to keep my mouth shut most of the time when someone messes with me - but when it comes to my dear wife, you gonna get an earfull.

Now ... Chuck ... since I KNOW you read the other forums, I'm gonna do you like you done my DW. It's posted here once and that's it ... not gonna show you any more courtesy than you showed her. You can pull Country Style Homestead off the "new site" and leave me out of your game playing ... I want no part of it! Sad part of all this is, you wouldn't have ticked me off at all if you'd just shown a little of that Christian behavior taught in the scriptures.

-- Phil in KS (cshomestead@planetkc.com), May 28, 2002

Answers

Phil,

First, let me apologize if you feel I did your DW wrong. I certainly did not mean to. I understand your emotion on this, and you are completely justified in feeling the way that you do.

Second, please allow me to explain. Your wife's post reminded me that I had meant to reopen the forum to new posts, so when I saw it, I promptly went and did just that. Then, since it was reopened to new posts, there was no need for the post on how to circumvent the system to do it, I deleted her post. There was certainly no malicious intent involved here, just a simple misunderstanding.

As for not emailing her, I should have done that (it has always been my practice) but as you can imagine, I've had a few other things on my plate today. I was just running to fast and neglected to do it. For that I send you (and her) my deepest apologies. My bad.

Anyway, thank her for the helpful reminder. I sure wish we could all meet someday so that we could really get to know each other. I think that would go a long way to heading off misunderstandings of this sort, being able to know each other as people, not simply impersonal folks on a bulletin board. {sigh!}

I'm emailing you my personal phone number. Please feel free to call me and we can discuss this further if you like. I appreciate and value your input on the forum, and hope to be able to maintain our relationship.

-- Chuck (woah@mission4me.com), May 28, 2002.

gees Phil,, at least you got an explaination, though not at the time,, Welcome

-- Stan (sopal@net-pert.com), May 28, 2002.

Phil, I find you to be delightfully forthright and I adore the herb postings!!! I just wanted to get that out first. And I think it is more that honorable to protect your wife and stand by her! Why can't I find a man like that? (don't answer that..;)

That said, Chuck is telling the truth on this. I happened to be there (was about to post)when the post was deleted.

Raised my eyebrows till I noticed the new link had been added.

-- Patty (SycamoreHollow1@aol.com), May 28, 2002.

Well folks, I've been out in the back forty doing some mowing and spending time with nature and this land I love, and I've realized something. I was wrong (OUCH!!! ... did I say that???). Yes ... I blew it - Chuck, I apologize!

The Irish jumped up in me when I felt my wife had been wronged and instead of sending an email or private message to find out what the deal was before I made my judgements, I blew a fuse and went on a rant. After reading Chuck's explanation and receiving his apology, the light of understanding began making its way through the fog of my clouded judgement. I think I should have handled the situation somewhat differently and set a better example. Oooopppssss! Sorry!

Chuck, you have a tough job, but I encourage you not to give up. There may be many that don't see eye-to-eye with you ... some may be downrite mean and nasty to you ... and others may ignore you altogether ... hang in there!

As for the forum on Homesteadingtoday, I withdraw my request of having it removed. However, you should know up front that the majority of what I do in the future will be here as long as Lusenet is going along okay. Not because I don't like the new site - it's pretty snazzy - but because I KNOW I can back up the information on this site every day and have access to it no matter what happens. I personally can't do that on the other site - I know ... I've tried :- )!

So ... no hard feelings, and I hope this all smoothes out soon. Happy homesteading everyone, and sweet dreams!

G'nite all!

-- Phil in KS (mac0328@planetkc.com), May 28, 2002.

I only wish that all problems on these forums were cleared up as easily as this one. It is nice to see two adults resolve their differences and make up. Gives me a warm fuzzy feeling. Have a great day everyone! Joanie

-- Joanie (ber-gust@prodigy.net), May 29, 2002.

The measure of a man. . . . .

I'm with the previous poster. When each side in a disagreement steps back and listens to the other, often they can then meet in the middle. One intractable side will usually guarantee war.

-- Granny Hen (cluckin along@cs.com), May 30, 2002.

Hey...I am impressed! This sure was handled well. Of course, how could we expect any less out of these two gentlemen? Thanks. Just my .02 worth. :)

-- Judy Hill (hillsacres@sk.sympatico.ca), May 31, 2002.