You win Stan... : LUSENET : Country Families : One Thread

Ok, you have made me actually sit here in tears. I don't know what to do to make you stop. I don't want to read any more of your insane garbage. Leave us alone. Go away... This is supposed to be for fun, we don't want or need your input here any longer.

I am not an evil person. I am a Christian young woman, trying to live a good life. That is all. I do the best I can to take care of my children, live a good, clean, moral life, and be a good wife to my husband. What if I were your daughter? Would you want her to be treated this way?

I am done deleting you, post whatever you want, because I am through playing these inane games. Maybe someday you will see what you are doing, hopefully before it is too late. To tell the truth if I were the rest of you I would not even stick around to read the rest of his hopeless drivel. I hope you don't have to read some of the garbage I have had to read.

I am hopeful that soon some changes will be occurring on the forum, and I will post an update when that occurs.

Until then, you win Stan... Hope the victory makes you feel really good. I will also pray for you.

Any of the rest of you, I will be more than happy to correspond via e-mail. I will keep you in my thoughts and in my prayers, I have come to greatly love, respect and admire so many of you. Thanks to all, it has been a great run!

-- Melissa in SE Ohio (, March 13, 2002


Sorry Melissa!

-- george nh (, March 13, 2002.

If there's anything I can do to help, please just let me know.

-- Cheryl in KS (, March 13, 2002.

Melissa - do not let him win!!You have the support of HUNDREDS of good folks on this board. Go to a password or whatever it takes. Letting him win lets every idiot like him know that they can get away with it. We are hoping that you wrote this note under great duress and will change your mind. HANG IN THERE. The power of prayer (ours included) will get you through this and lead you on the right path.

-- SteveD(TX) (, March 13, 2002.

Melissa, I think there are lots of people around here that will help. I am not great with computers but I would do whatever asked. I learn so much from people here and try to help when I can. Go to a password or whatever is needed. We are behind you, remember, this is a test and with the help of friends and the grace of God you will come out stronger than before and smiling.

-- Joanie (, March 13, 2002.

I don't think it is a matter of Stan wins. I think it is more a matter of Melissa having to have a life -- of which apparently Stan does not have.

Personally, I feel very sorry or Stan. He must be a very miserable person to feel like he has to make others around him miserable as well. If beating up on Melissa is making him this happy, then the guy REALLY needs our prayers because something is VERY wrong!

Melissa, let the Word of God go out in here; therefore, the enemy is going to try hard to shut it down! Your doing a good thing and you do a wonderful job. I think your right to just let Stan have his free for all and he will grow tired of it and move on when he sees he gets no response.

-- Karen (, March 13, 2002.

Melissa-is there someway you could make his posts stand out, so we won't even open them? He'll leave after awhile, I'm sure! Don't let one rotten egg spoil your basket; those of us that truly enjoy this forum outnumber those who don't by a large, large percentage!! Keep up the great work!

-- Joe (, March 13, 2002.

Melissa ,if I can help in any way let me know. Will keep You and this Forum in our prayers. God is GREATER than the Devil and we wont let him ruin this forum.

God Bless and Praying for the strife to end.

-- Charles Steen (, March 13, 2002.

This is not acceptable, I recommend all readers contact all forum moderators and request that they delete the disturbing troll any time he tries to post, better yet demand it. He earned it by his actions.

-- mitch hearn (, March 13, 2002.

Melissa, we are all behind you 100%. I wish there was something I could do to make this idiot see the wrong in his ways and make him stop. One can't help but feel sorry for someone who would have to stoop so low to do the things he is doing. May God show him how wrong he is and we all need to remember him in prayer.

-- Barb in Ky. (, March 13, 2002.

I post very rarely and have been out of town for nearly 2 weeks because of a death in my immediate family so I have missed what this so called 'person' has done. I enjoy reading everyones posts here and can not imagine letting this 'person' win at what ever his game is. Personally I ignore trolls. I think they have to be very angry people who have no life so therefore they have to make other people miserable. Don't respond at all to them. They get their joy from seeing what your reaction will be and that just gives them more fuel. Do not respond to them at all. No reaction - no fuel. Or as many know, it is easier to catch flies with honey. Kill them with kindness. Don't mention anything about what they wrote, but instead pick a favorite saying or Bible verse and that is what you send to them. If they write back again, repeat the same saying or verse and continue to do that each and every time, saying nothing more. There are hundreds of good people on this forum with alot of good advice to give everyone and to let one 'person' wreck havoc and win is not the answer. Sincerely hope I will be reading about everyone's lives and goings on in the future.

-- Billie in CO (, March 13, 2002.

Don't give up. We will be with you as long as it takes.

-- Christine in OK (, March 13, 2002.

Dearest Melissa, It pains us all for you to be so upset. I went to my resident computer son. He runs games on line, and also sells his programs. He gets this type of thing a lot, especially on his games. He says to get his IP number, and contact his server. He says the servers have always nipped these things in the bud immediately. I would hate to lose this forum--I know I don't post much, but I do read it whenever I get a chance. Living with DH and 2 grown sons, it's a breath of fresh air for me to "listen" to a little girl-talk, and such every day things as what someone else is having for dinner...makes me feel much less isolated. If you change to a password, can I please have it? :) Bless you, Melissa, I don't think you are aware of just how many lives you brighten every day. Kathie

-- Kathie in Western Washington (, March 13, 2002.

Melissa -- I am sorry you are going through this. It is one of the difficult realities of open forums -- anyone can post. I support you should you decide to go private (just don't leave me behind, please!). Yahoogroups offers invite-only groups. I know that it can be considered insular, but it might get rid of wackos like this and allow those of us who really appreciate the focus of this forum to still interact with the people we've come to care about.

I don't know how much good it will do -- probably none, but I lodged a complaint with Stan's ISP. I'd like to ask, as disgusting as it sounds, for you to leave his posts as they are for a while. If the ISP DOES check it out, I'd like them to see what he's been posting, and I'd like them to cut off his service. This does happen if an ISP feels that they might get bad press (i.e., lose other clients) or if they feel that the postings are inappropriate. ISP's for the most part, are privately owned, and they have the right to oust anyone they feel is abusing the service.

-- Tracy (, March 13, 2002.

Melissa, my email is messed up due to a new server, I cannot email you direct yet, do not stand down. You cannot let evil win. You are not alone, you have the SOURCE, you have us; go to pass word for a few days until the new services are in place; this forum is more close to me than blood relations. I recommend all readers contact all forum moderators and demand that the evil one be deleted every time he tries to post a thread. He had earned it or contact him directly at:, the presence of all the fake forums is enough to have his webmaster dismiss him if we all place complaint. Just do it.

-- mitch hearn (, March 13, 2002.

I post here rarely, lurk often. Like some others I don't know what Stans upset about but I do know he's behaving like a cyber- delinquent. Hang in there melissa and the rest IGNORE him. He craves the attention, any way he can get it.

-- jake (, March 13, 2002.

Hi Melissa, take a deep breath, dry your eyes and think of all of us that think you are a wonderful, wonderful person and will do whatever we can to help fix this. You've got alot of friends here! We are all grown-ups and can handle and ignore all this mess until it goes away. Don't you worry about us and don't carry the burden alone, let us help. Though it may be hard, look at it this way.... The kids are healthy, hubby's doing fine, gardening season is upon us and ya might even find a good deal at the dollar store this week!!! :) A troll on this forum is very small in the scope of things. Let's all treat him as such. It'll pass, and we'll wait it out with you in Grace.

-- Annie (, March 13, 2002.

Don't give in. Contact his server give them the infromation, if they cut him off, contact them again, if he doesn't get turned off give all us his server name and his number, along with the email address of the server. They don't have time to answer hundreds of emails they will then get rid of him. Time to stand up and get rid of these people. If that don't work there is always a well we won't go to that now. I just don't read post that people make that anoy me I scanned one of his and after that never looked at another and doesn't bother me to just skim by those kinds of vermin.

-- David in North Al. (, March 13, 2002.

Melissa,don't let this weirdo get you down.Just ignore him.When he sees that he's not getting a 'rise' from the rest of us,he'll move on. I don't post often,but read everyday,and would hate to lose this forum.God Bless You!

-- Johna (, March 13, 2002.

Hello Melissa,

Be patient with him. I am sure things will turn out okay. Attacking him will only cause him to be more defensive. It will cool down....eventually.



-- (, March 13, 2002.

Melissa, Afew years back we had a terrible church split,one meeting lead to name calling etc.Our preacher would look at us that were being attacked and say some one has to stay Godly.Being the hot head I am espically when those I care for are under attack that was the best advice I recieved.Remember how silent our Lord was when he was being attacked those last days.And Job,he would not give in as advised.They were innocent as you are.Lean upon All Mihgty God,Call on Him,hold Him to His word,He never Fails,I know for as I am His child I have crawled up into His lap many times because of one trial or another.And when it seems as if there is nothing you or anyone else can do(which always seems to be in His plan) His glory and strength come through and we know that HE did the problem solving not us.Jesus ,just the mention of His name makes the devil and his demons shutter.Psalms 121,Phil.4:13Psalms55:22and so many more.Let us pray Gods will be done not ours.

-- willa in IL. (, March 13, 2002.

Melissa, I don't post much at all, but I lurk here daily. I get so much inspiration from all of you. I enjoy reading about your lives and about your faith in God. I am a christian too. I will be praying for you and for the individual mentioned, that he will change his ways. If you do go to a password, I would like to have it, just so I could continue to read the forum. God Bless You. Jean

-- Jean (, March 13, 2002.

You've got our prayers. Take a little time off. Most drips dry up with a little time. He will too. You have the love and support of the whole site family.

-- charlieS (, March 13, 2002.

Melissa, this has happened on Timebomb2000. Perhaps you could talk to one of the moderators and see how they stopped it. Stan isn't worth wasting breath on. At any rate, you have been super.

-- monkeyface (, March 13, 2002.

We all love you & your family!!!!!! God's will be done!!!!

-- Sonda in Ks. (, March 13, 2002.

We are with you all the way.

-- Bob in WI (, March 13, 2002.

Oh, Melissa, don't let this get to you. I know that it is a hassle to deal with, but just try to ignore these posts and eventually he will go away. You can't reason with someone who is so sick and twisted that they would commit such acts, so don't even waste your time. Don't take it personally, and don't let him ruin what is an otherwise wonderful forum. You are doing a great job and we all appreciate your efforts. Hang in there.

-- Elizabeth (, March 14, 2002.

Any one wanting to place complaint just type in webmaster@net- aganist, thats stan , the child idiot. And then contact the other forums and demand he be deleted every time he tries to post there. The idiot child is posting names as close to mine as he can, as soon as he posts my name correctly, I am going to file suit aganist him which will insure he gets to visit correction facilities for trademark infrindgements. In my opinion, his diapers are soiled and he can not change them himself. He is jealous of my popularity and takes it out on this forum, he is not man enough to come get in my face with it, so he strikes at less defensable targets. I have faced machine gun fire; does this little p___ ant think he has my attention??

-- mitch hearn (, March 14, 2002.

I've studied Stan's posts here and in the other forums and I have to agree with whoever said that there is something terribly wrong with Stan. I don't know if it was in this thread or another, but I believe that Stan has definitely got a problem. And it isn't an impersonator. It is as if he has removed himself from all his emotions. All there is left is hatred. But, that is Stan's problem, not Melissa's. Given a bit of time, Stan will self-destruct. We all see that coming. In the meantime, Melissa needs to be happy. She needs to go on with her "real" life, not this forum. If she wants to quit dealing with Stan, that's fine with me. I think that she really should as it is taking it's toll on her and, frankly, this forum isn't worth it. Until some changes take place, Melissa, turn your attention to doing the things you enjoy. God bless!

-- Ardie/WI (, March 14, 2002.

Melissa, you have my support and prayers in whatever you choose to do. Polly

-- (, March 14, 2002.

Melissa, I certainly understand if you need time off or you want to quit because you want to spend time with your family or whatever, but I hope you wont just because of this one guy. He will quit after a while. I think youve done an outstanding job, and I hope you wont let one person undo all the good that everyone else, espeicially yourself, has done. Take a break and try not to let him get you down- far easier said than done, I know!

-- Kelly (, March 14, 2002.

Melissa, as I read this thread I first wept with you. Then I became frustrated, then angry. Now I've given it over to the Lord in prayer. You've been a valiant warrior in the Army of the Lord, and everyone lifts you in prayer. In a way I agree with Mitch that now is not the time to stand down and let Stan walk all over you, but I also think that tending to your own blood family and taking a break from the stress of the cyber-brat is more important. You must do what you feel is best for yourself and your family.

I do feel that Stan's IP should cut him off. But what's to keep him from switching to another - it's not really the answer. He must work through his problems and solve them in order to be socially or cyberly (???) acceptable in future. Prayer works miracles, and I join those who pray for Stan's redemption.

But you know, outside the birds are singing, the sky is blue, and my garden needs attention. The animals are begging for my presence, and I feel an intense longing to be in prayer as I move about my daily chores. Perhaps even a song as I go along the rows.

Blessings to you, and to all those whose hearts and prayers support you.

In His Name Michaela

-- Michaela (, March 14, 2002.

OK, I am back and have pulled myself together a little. I must say that I have not contacted anyone about this, as it is also my contention, that if someones service is cancelled, they can just get new. I just would like to appeal to the kindness and consideration that I feel is in all of us. Please just be nice!!!!

-- Melissa in SE Ohio (, March 14, 2002.

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