Anniversary ---------How did we make it this long?

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Ok, in a few days I'll be celebrating the 8th. Not long I admitt. But for those of you who have made it awhile, can you tell me some of the secrets of success?

Thanks.

-- sumer (shh@aol.con), March 31, 2001

Answers

If its seemed like such a hassle for the past 8 years maybe you should divorce the bastard.

-- 2 cents (peanut@gallery.com), March 31, 2001.

sumer:

Leave 3 things unsaid each day (neg. of course ;-)

Hug real tight at least once a day

Don't nag. If you have to walk over a pile of dirty socks, then just do it--see who gets tired of it first (I always lose that one).

Choose your arguments carefully--never about the small stuff, i.e. towels on the bath floor isn't worth it

Never use the words: "Never" or "Always" in a fight. And never bring up a past wrong-doing in a fight. Fight about the subject at hand and nothing else.

When angry, count to ten and think of what life would be like if he/she were dead. (ala: Wonderful life)

I know it all sounds goofy, but we're heading towards 20years and it only gets better!

Congratulations!

Mar.

-- Not now, not like this (AgentSmith0110@aol.com), March 31, 2001.


wow! Whatever Capn put into that hot chocolate he made me going to head is. oooooooo. well, my old granny used to say: "DON"T PAPER A WALL TOGETHER. HIRE A PRO." I guess it worked for her married 75 years. hic. Damn! What was in there??????????????

-- kb8 (kb8um8@yahool.com), March 31, 2001.

sumer-

My mom and dad are diametric opposites- he's a doctor, she's an artist, he's from a family of immigrants, she has southern roots pre- dating the civil war. He's extremely analytical, she's extremely emotional. I have never seen them fight, or even have a disagreement. Since I'm getting married this spring, I asked my mother to tell me the secret of their success. Mom said that early on they committed to always being 100% honest with each other while being as gently as possible and to always be on each other's side when troubles arose. Mom told me that there were plenty of parenting decisions they disagreed with each other on, but in front of the kids they always backed each other up. There was no "go ask Mom if Dad says no," in our family.

-- Tarzan the Ape Man (tarzan@swingingthroughthejunglewithouta.net), March 31, 2001.


Ironing.

Making sure that your husband's shirts are nicely ironed is perhaps the most important secret to a long happy marriage.

-- Uncle Deedah (unkeed@yahoo.com), March 31, 2001.



B-SLAP for Unk.

Being best friends helps...50-50 decisions...Good sense of humor!

R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

-- Peg (pegmcleod@mediaone.net), April 01, 2001.


It took my wife and I a long time to learn how to draw the line. That's very hard to do with someone you love. You have to figure out how to get close, stay close and still be your own person.

It is a lot easier to either turn away, keep your distance and reduce your relationship to being roommates), or else to forfeit too much in the interest of keeping the spouse happy until your own personality is half buried under an avalanche of compromises. Respect has a lot to do with it, but getting respect means drawing a clear line sometimes.

-- Miserable SOB (misery@misery.com), April 01, 2001.


Congrats Sumer!!!

But I'm gonna have to disagree with ya Unk,keeping a nice full frig full of cold beers over-rides ironing and being a wild Tasmanian she- devil banshee behind closed doors doesn't hurt either : )

-- capnfun (capnfun1@excite.com), April 01, 2001.


LOL Unk. That reminds of a joke about a woman on an airplane that was about to crash she started screaming and said she'd never really felt like a woman. Couldn't someone make her feel like a woman before they all died?

Suddenly a man stood up, took off his shirt, and in a low, sexy voice said, "Iron this,"

-- Tarzan the Ape Man (tarzan@swingingthroughthejunglewithouta.net), April 01, 2001.


Sumer,

After eighteen years, two months, seventeen days, eight hours and twenty-three minutes (but who's counting) I have found one sure rule for a successful marriage. I have tried to follow this but I have had some instances of slipping up. Rule No. 1 - Keep your mouth shut and do what you're told.

Of course you may want to have this rule apply to your husband.

-- Jack Booted Thug (governmentconspiracy@NWO.com), April 01, 2001.



Sumer, I remember asking my MIL this same question when they celebrated their 25th. She replied, "Develop scars on your tongue!"

-- Tricia the Canuck (jayles@telusplanet.net), April 01, 2001.

Real women DON'T IRON =0)

-- (cin@cin.cin), April 01, 2001.

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