One of those "Feel free to bitch about dating, sex, and relationships" questions...

-- ann monroe (monroe@chorus.net), June 11, 2000

Answers

I never found a problem with the opposite sex as a sex. I have more problems with the same sex or at least a certain life approach of some of my same sex.

-- Lee (leet@megsinet.net), June 12, 2000.

Which sex is the "opposite" one? :{>

That deep and abiding mystery aside, I'm in harmony with Lee on this one. I'm more often embarrassed by members of my own sex than I am embarrassed for members of the other.

-- Mark (mbourne@sff.net), June 13, 2000.

By sex, my curly-haired one - I presume you mean gender? Cause I have yet to figure out what the opposite of sex is. Abstinence is a possible opposite but doesn't quite fit either since that's simply the absense of sex. Some might think of pain as that but then there's that pain-pleasure line so guess not.

Since I prefer both genders pretty equally and prefer sex in general . . . ;-) . . . I won't pick on any one gender. Besides as sex, sucking can be quite fine.

Then, as gender, I tend to agree with Lee and Mark on the relating thing a little. Mostly though I have not found it to be a gender issue but rather a personality and cultural difference. I mean cultural not so much as in country/ethnicity but more as in the more personal social culture, especially the basic assumptions individuals are socialized to have and oft hold to so strongly and subconsciously that they do not realize how it interferes with effective communication and relating.

Now as for dating, I don't really get that concept. I relate, I interact, I go places, I do things with people, I spend time with people, I enjoy some people, I have sex with some (ones I enjoy in some form!). I don't really date per se and never really have much. Seems to be a weird pretense that gets in the way or is used as an excuse for not really relating fully or not addressing one's own issues of why one doesn't deal well with persons.

Now that I may have made the subject both more baudy and more heady (as well as wordy) than likely intended. . . I'll quit. Whatever. :->

-- aka Bubbly (foo@bar.net), June 14, 2000.

"Sex is the opposite of death." --The Roches

-- Mark (mbourne@sff.net), June 15, 2000.