Kind of miscellanious relationship stuff right now. Anyone have any explanations for this? Any questions to throw out? Anything?

-- Meghan (faeriebaby@hotmail.com), April 13, 2000

Answers

Actually, I just asked this over on Xeney's forum, but I'll throw it out here, too. The short version: can long distance relationships work?

-- Monique (megbyb@hotmail.com), April 13, 2000.

I had one good long distance relationship. It ended badly, but we were very close. She lived in VA and I lived in RI. Other than that all my long distance relationships have sucked. Mostly frustrating, high phone bills and never seeing the other person.

I haven't even considered a long distance relationship in years, but one of my readers who I have been corrosponding with regularly for months just told me out of the blue she wanted me to move to San Francisco and date her. I dunno how I feel about that. She's *really* cool, but I don't wanna drop everything good I have going on here to move cross country. On the other hand, I have wanted to travel for a while.

-- David Grenier (retro@retrogression.com), April 13, 2000.

can relationships work?

-- timb the pimp? (notekaudio@aol.com), April 13, 2000.

In relation to Mo's question about long distance relationships, I would like to answer this one. My husband and I just recently survived a long distance relationship of a little over two years.

So, yes they can work. But that's not to say there won't be problems. Long distance relationships are HARD. They are WORK. But I truly believe that if you and the other person want it bad enough and commit to it, they can definitely work.

Just don't go into it thinking it will take care of itself. It won't. That's where people mess up and the relationship fails.

At least this is my experience. Hope it helps.

-- Lee Ann (lela@ficom.net), April 19, 2000.

i'm way into this forum today. yeah yeah.

so: Mo's question -- Can long distance relationships work?

i moved around all my life and i'm about to graduate from college and move again and this is one of my biggest issues. i am a HORRIBLE correspondent, and for me long distance relationships, romantic or not, have never seemed to work out. besides the people i know here at college who i haven't left yet, i have never known anyone for more than three years except for my best friend/ex from high school and my family. and one other friend, but we haven't talked for so long that i'm not sure it counts anymore.

i would like to believe that long-distance relationships can work. i think you have to have an enormous amount of commitment though, and you have to really give your heart and soul into making it work. frightening for me to admit, i don't know if i've ever had that amount of commitment to any romantic relationship i've been in. but then, everyone's got their own little issues, and i won't bore you with any more of mine that play into that. except to say that right now i'm also a little afraid to think that a long-distance relationship could work out, because then what? i might actually have to deal with someone for that long? i don't know. (i sound like a horrible person. i like to think i'm not THAT horrible. but you be the judge: falwyn.diaryland.com)

i'll shut up now.

-- Falwyn (falwyn@diaryland.com), April 22, 2000.