She was (1) probably lying (2) does not want to pay money for a service she needs (3) pretty damn sure she knows she needs licensing rights if she is publishing a book and catalogs (4) wasting your time(posted 8494 days ago)You didn't do anything wrong, you just passed on a losing proposition.
An average nyc headshot for actors costs 300-500 dollars, rights for a book shot is a lot more, she was fishing and she came up empty. After she goes to a bunch of people who will do it dirt cheap and the product is totally unusable, they usually goto a high priced shooter and get it done right. Happens all the time to actors in nyc who go for the budget deals out by photographers who can't shoot. Eventually you pay wasted dev and lab fees that ends up doubling the cost it would have been if you had just done it right the first time.